Bit of a long one but here goes about 2 year ago I introduced this lifestyle to my girlfriend. She was very unsure at first so I didn't push anything we just spoke about it at length the good the bad and everything inbetween.

We would speak about during sex and in general conversation. As time went on and she looked into more herself she said it would be something she would like to try! So with that we set the rules and what we both wanted out of it and agreed once it happened if either of us didn't like it, it would stop because it's something we both have to be comfortable with.

Earlier this year we were on vacation and she had the opportunity to play with a guy and she took it. It was mega nerve racking for both of us but we enjoyed it apart from a couple of bits which we spoke about. We then invited the guy back but stated more firmly how we wanted it to go and the second time went great and my girlfriend enjoyed it a lot more.

Fast forward to today and we are still fond of the memories of that vacation but my girlfriend has lost a bit of interest, when I raised it with her she said she enjoyed it and would do it again but feels like trying to meet up with people back home is a complete different ball game. She says mainly because she would have to meet alone because of having a child, she struggles talking to men in that way now (I organised the first meet) and she feels like she's too picky!

I've spoke with her about leaving it at that but she's insisted she enjoyed it and would do it again but would like things to happen more naturally even though I can't see a situation where it would happen. Or she said if it was to happen again as it did the first time.

To note she doesn't have much confidence in herself which I think plays a part in it. I'm just unsure how to proceed do I just leave it and move on or try to carry on with it?