I'm a male 50 wife is 51. We have been playing this lifestyle fantasy for many years. It's very erotic in the bedroom. We are married 30 years and have no secrets at all. I told her probably 6 or 7 years ago I wanted to see her with another man and that I wanted her to explore her sexuality in a way I can't provide. Some of this is for me but mostly it's about seeing her experience more. Our marriage has it all. We are successful and love each other. Trust and communication are beyond reproach. We have checked off all the boxes that you need to make this a positive thing. She told me that she would have another man but she wanted to loose weight first. She has done that and I'm proud of her. Once in a casino hotel room she said let's go find someone to come fuck me. I was ready to go man hunting right the and there. She backed out. I dealt with it through grace and compassion like always. I think she was trying to test my level of seriousness making these fantasies real. Just last week we were playing and watching porn. She said straight out the she was going to have another man. Having custody of our young granddaughter hasn't helped either but thats ok. I guess I want to talk to an experienced hotwife about where we are and study what the next steps might look like for us. There is no shortage of men willing to tell me all of their tricks "mostly manipulation tactics". We don't roll that way. Honest open and real is what I'm after. That's why I want to visit with an experienced female who understands the dynamics. I'm sure there are many questions. I'm an open book. Thanks in advance for your time.