My wife now knows my kink and the gist of it—she gets to play and I am involved at some level (watch preferably or reclaim). Only ever a fantasy up to this point. She mostly turns me down and I’ve taken the sage advice not to be pushy… let her question at her own pace. That’s what I do. This said, it came up yesterday when we were both horny and she asked where do you even find guys, “do you just swipe left or right?” My answer: “I think that is pretty much it.”

Anyhow, it’s little questions by her like this that keep me boiling. But on occasion she’s also thrown the kink back in my face during a random argument about nothing, which makes me regret ever bringing it up.

Love the kink but accepting that it may be best unpursued.