my boyfriend and i have only been together for a month. we have a LOT of sex. he’s been really open with me that one of his sexual fantasies is watching me have sex with other men, or having threesomes with another guy. or “reclaiming” me after i have sex with another guy. its not exactly something im used to, tbh. yea, i’m into it, i like the idea of being all slutty for him and making him horny from it. but ive never done it before, and i have some concerns.

for one thing, i feel like im so used to the idea of men being jealous of stuff like that, that it kinda feels like he doesnt love me or something if he’s not jealous. but maybe i just have a bad view on what love is. regardless, its a little.. confusing? i guess? like, im not sure how to react to it.

but, also, does this mean i would have to be okay with him having solo sex with other women? because i really dont know if i want him to do that, unless it’s a threesome scenario. but it seems like he’ll want me to do some solo play with a guy so that he can “reclaim” me and i feel like it wouldnt be fair if i wasnt okay with him doing solo stuff with women.

and, i mean, we have only been together for a month. he seems very eager to try this with me but doesnt seem to want to push for it too much right now, just wishes to fantasize about it with me and make plans to potentially do something like that in the future. so how soon is too soon to want to try something like this? how long should we wait? what expectations should we have going into it, and is there any general advice and expectations that someone could offer us?