So this is my first post on here.. my husband posted in the community not long ago asking for some advice about me potentially being hot wife material.

Well he took the plunge and spoke to me about it…and basically the last 5 days have been a whirlwind. If you’ve read his post you’ll know it started with him discovering my Reddit searches and then waking me up with sex, confronting me about my searches while telling me I can have all of things I fantasise about. At first I was confused and thought he was trying to shame me about what I had been looking at so I didn’t know how to react to the situation..except for confused but in the end we both came. Talking about it afterwards I felt like I had to reassure him but at the same time I knew in myself that I do have fantasies about involving more than one man into the sexual relationship. I equally appreciate the female body and although I’ve never been sexual with a woman I have fantasised about it, although to a lesser degree than fantasising about being taken by two men at the same time. I think society has just forced those fantasies into a plane that that is all it remains as…

So as I said since he finally came out and just told me exactly what he was thinking I have not been able to control my sexual drive - it is through the roof at the moment. He has literally opened a can of worms. I am constantly wet and aching and getting ridiculously distracted thinking about the possibilities of living out his fantasy and mine - having him watch me get a good fucking is driving me insane. We’ve been on sex over drive, watching Hotwife porn together and losing a stupid amount of sleep because we both can’t stop touching each other and coming. Genuinely asking if this normal? Not that I am complaining! We are looking into ways to start finding someone to explore with - is it worth looking into swingers clubs where we can just view and see how it feels in an “organic” way? How have others typically ventured into bringing their hotwife fantasy into a reality?

In practical terms though I’m worried about a multitude of things - STDs for one and then knowing how he and I will actually feel in the situation when it arises. I love my husband and he is my absolute everything. As much as this is his fantasy, it’s also mine but I have said if he ever changed his mind or felt different that we would stop. I think respect is the biggest part of this. I said to him today that for me I think one of the most important aspects is the reclaiming and him showing just how much he wants me afterwards. He likes the cheating idea in that if I meet a guy organically, I have a pass to do as I please.. however I think right now I feel more of a kick out of him watching and being there - whether he chooses to be involved or not. I guess it is all dependent on individual personalities…has that changed for anyone?

Anyways, sorry this is so long but just wanted to say thank you (!!!) for encouraging him to just bring it up and speak openly about it with me because imo the sex and connection between us has skyrocketed. While I do feel slightly anxious about it (being new into this) I am excited to see where it goes and turning our fantasies into a reality. As always any advice or suggestions are always appreciated.