Hi sexy people!

We have been discussing this for few years, our ideal scenario is having an mfm threesome. The wife has sext with multiple men, it was hot and went great.

We are ready and would like to move things into the real world without being sexual yet. The husband suggested the wife to go on a tinder date during our planned trip without mentioning our dynamic. The wife is not too comfortable leading someone on and lying about everything. The husband is worried that if we mention we are looking for a 3rd the conversation will already be very sexual and worries the guy may be more aggressive or thinks the wife is easy.

What do you suggest we do? Other possibilities the wife goes on her own to the pool or coffee shop dressed in a sexy way hoping someone will strike a convo? (Too optimistic perhaps)

Thank you in advance!