For those of you who have done both, which lifestyle do you prefer and why?

My wife and I were in the swinging community for about 3 years. We had a ton of fun and are still open to one-off experiences when they arise. We just don’t actively seek them out.

We slowly transitioned to hotwifing a little over a year ago and found that this was more fulfilling for us.

From the very first moment we swapped with another couple, I realized I just couldn’t take my eyes off her when she was playing. Almost didn’t feel fair to my play partners, as I felt like I wasn’t able to be fully present with them.

I realized my kink, my excitement, my fantasies, mostly revolved around her being sexual with other men. It just hits that sweet spot for me.

This realization has made things so much easier for us. No more trying to find those four-way connections, navigating couple drama, or establishing ongoing friendships with lifestyle couples in our already fulfilling and busy vanilla life.

I feel like instead of me trying to find sexual excitement outside of my relationship, I get it all from my wife. Her being a total nympho, enjoying new cocks, exploring her own fantasies has just absolutely exploded our own sex life in a way I don’t think you can get any other way—even from swinging.

Thoughts from those who have done both?