Mostly a question for the ladies but I like the male perspective too.

My wife has voiced a concern
as we head into our 4th MFM (Stag/Vixen) experience in a very short amount of time.

As a short background my wife and was in a terrible, sexless marriage for over 20 years and her total life long sexual partners is only 11 men (including me).

I have a really different sexual history with more partners than I’m proud of.

I initially brought up the LS with my wife a couple of years ago (we’ve been together under 5 years). Up until a year ago it was a hard pass. As I started to understand her hesitation I understood it had to do with jealousy over my experience and body count (not really individuals but just experience). As I learned this I learned that swapping and MFF were OFF the table so I pivoted.

She’s the love of my life and she’s fucking hot 🥵. She is also the best fuck I’ve ever had. So it became hot for me to think of sharing her in MFM.

So, we are here now. Pulled the trigger the first week of June and we have our 4th guy coming on Saturday.

Last night she looked at me seriously and told me she’s excited for Saturday but she’s starting to feel like a slut. She told me she doesn’t want to use her fingers to keep a tally of men she’s fucked.

I tried to assure her that what we’re doing isn’t exactly “slut” territory but that didn’t help. I told her we can stop but she said she doesn’t want that. I asked her what she did want and it’s the same thing I want.

We’d both like to find a guy or two we can have in rotation and over for fun in a more regular FWB situation. But, we both agree we haven’t found that right guy yet.

I want to affirm her feelings and abide her wishes but the “slut” feeling is real with her.

Did you ladies(or do you still) ever feel like a slut? How did you guys manage it as a couple? I hate that she feels like that for even a second!!