So I've been in the life for over 20 years and I have a friend who just found out (male) that hubby and i are in this life. He's asked me what to say to his wife to help her understand the life and get on board.
Before I give my advice I want to ask other experienced hotwifes this question. I want to give the best possible answer I can taken from several others points of view. Herr is his delima and mainly why im.asking others views on this before I answer.

One important fact (I think) before you read the below is all 3 of these affairs ended only after he found out and blew it up.

1. She has cheated on him 3 times that he knows of during there 17 year marriage. (With co-workers). 2 were married men, one was in the process of divorce.

2. One of her affairs was 4 years with same guy, once that broke off, it was only a couple of months, and she was seeing another partner (co worker as well) and that lasted about a year. The other was a friend of his (hubby)that was saying with them a few months one year, only lasted about 4 months, several years prior to the last 2 I just mentioned.

3. When he asks her to include him and hed be ok with it and that it turns him on and he knows he has inconsistencies pleasing her and that's another reason he's OK with it. He told her it's the lies that hurt him, not the sex and if she just told him about it and recorded some of it occasionally he be ok with it 100%. she says "I didnt want to do it, I just want you, I only did it because you weren't being a husband and you didn't know I existed, it's how she dealt with other trauma in their life,and rejects the idea holding fast to she's "sorry" and it was a mistake and she really doesn't wanna do it anymore, why can't he just be happy with her and not her fuxking other men. And that All she's ever wanted is him and she'd be happy with just him. And says it makes her feel like trash that he gets off on her fuxking other men and why she just doesn't for him (herself,her body and soon on) alone.

You see the delima here I'm sure and why I'm asking for other input. Sorry for all the spelling errors, I was typing thus in a hurry.

Input?

Thanks -SCHotWife