Hello everyone,

I hope this post finds you well. My wife and I are relatively new to the Hotwife lifestyle, with only a few experiences prior to having children. Now that our children are becoming more independent, we're finding more time for ourselves. As a result, I've been encouraging my wife to reconnect with her sexual side that she had before becoming a mother. This is a gradual process, and bit by bit, she’s starting to open up more, even looking at other men. Just last week, we had a conversation in bed where I asked if she would prefer to have an “adventure” with me in the room or solo. She said she would prefer to go solo, but it’s not something she’s actively considering at the moment.

She has given me the freedom to explore my kink online, and she respects it entirely. She understands that my kink revolves solely around her and that I have no desire to seek sex with other women.

Here’s where the issue arises: I posted a photo of my wife last week to see how it would affect me emotionally and sexually. I wanted to see how many likes and comments it would get, and potentially share them with her. She knows I have these photos and has set a clear boundary that I should never share any pictures where her face is visible without her consent, which I fully respect.

However, the responses I received were truly shocking. Are all Hotwives and their husbands looking for men who speak so disrespectfully? I received the most disgusting photos in my inbox and comments about my wife that were incredibly degrading. Do men think that this is arousing for me or my wife? My wife was born in the Netherlands but has Chinese parents. The fact that she’s even willing to consider thinking about men outside of our marriage is a huge step, but these disrespectful approaches are appalling and not something I consider ever showing to her.

Are there really women who seek this kind of attention? Are there husbands who enjoy other men speaking about their wives in such a manner?

Is there a group on Reddit where men treat a woman with respect instead of as an object? Perhaps this is common here in this lifestyle, and I need to look elsewhere or keep it to my own fantasy