Hey y’all

We’ve had a couple of experiences so far which didn’t go quite as planned. Wife is set on me being there and involved to some extent.

We are somewhat struggling with how to bridge the vibe check, to starting play, to me being involved. Previously, they both enjoyed some solo time before I came into the room - but that lead to a very awkward situation where I was never comfortable and couldn’t get an erection or he lost it as soon as I was ready to go. I never felt I was truly involved.

Any advice here? Maybe it was the 3rd? He was inexperienced so maybe that was a part of our issue. He said he was cool with me being involved but maybe he just wanted to fuck my wife and said that to get into bed.