Just yesterday my wife finally said yes to the idea of having sex with another man. Before, she only knows that it's my fantasy and said it will just remain that way. Let me try to give you a rundown of the events that led to it.

The Coworker

Her co-worker showed interest at her and this lit up her hidden desire to feel wanted. That she can still attract young and hot guys. They flirted, they exchanged nude pics, teased each other through video chat but it didn't work out ultimately which is fortunate because they work together.

A lot of first for her and she said she didn't like the experience. She felt dirty and used. I let her discover that what she did was empowering and made her feel confident about her body. That she's still desirable. She admitted that she liked the attention so she decided she will only flirt and will not show her body. Sure toy with them I said.

Flirtation stage

So she went to various r4r sub-reddits and messaged random guys (late 20s to late 30s) she's physically attracted to and had the same passion to fitness as hers. She did find some good ones but it also didn't last. She liked the initial conversation and flirting but once a guy showed her their dick pics without any solicitation, she got turned off. She told me dicks (even big ones) really don't turn her on (same with the coworker), only mine does. She doesn't want or need a huge cock.

Still continued with the flirting. She said maybe if she builds an emotional connection first then the rest (arousal, attraction) will follow. Told her that's not a good idea. This one guy that she really liked became too clingy. She realized she doesn't want that drama. Guy eventually showed him his dick (again without consent) and it turned her off, shut the guy down right away even when she initially thought he's the one.

There's also this guy in the UK that she's really attracted to. She helped him cum by showing her tits and she asked for a video of him cumming which he sent. She said she liked the idea of having that power to help a guy cum. But he's the cum-and-run type of guy so again she felt used afterwards.

At this point, she discovered some things about herself. She's attracted to men who are fit. But she doesn't want their dicks. She wants to be friends with them, even flirt a bit, but once it gets sexual the novelty wears off. Made me think, is she demisexual? These thoughts of her validated that she doesn't want another cock, she doesn't want to have sex with another guy or even hold another cock.

Welp, there goes that fantasy to reality idea.

The experienced bull

She's getting tired of browsing r4r and remembered this 40yo experienced guy who messaged me a couple of months ago wanting to help us navigate this lifestyle. She thought why not give him a chance. So they went to snapchat and just within the day of them chatting, she told me.. "I think I want to try experiencing another man" My ears perked up and my cock stirred. "Say that again?" "I think I want to have another cock inside me" or something like that she says. oh Wow! This guy's good!

"So what made her realize that?" I asked. She said that maybe I'm right, there could be a different and great way to enjoy sex out there if it's with another man. And this bull made her realize that. He wasn't pushy, he's respectful, and he's more into what he can provide her and not what he can get from her. And before he sent his dick pic, he made sure it's something that she wanted to see. Even asked her nicely. He's not as attractive or buff or even as tall compared to the other guys he chatted with but he found and pressed the correct buttons for her. I asked her "do you really like his cock or are you just being polite?" She said it's different this time, she wants him... she wants his cock, to taste and ride it... she wants what he's saying he can do for her. Oh my goodness. To hear those coming off her mouth turns me on so much. This guy's really good!

Next steps

So right now, they continue to chat and she's liking the idea more and more. Unfortunately, dude lives a bit far and doesn't travel here or near us as much so don't know when the stars would align for them to meet. All I know is that my wife's ready and willing to do it with somebody who she vibes with. She realized that she doesn't need to have an emotional connection with a guy to have sex with another guy. As long as she's attracted to him and that they vibe and that he knows what he's doing.

I continue to receive DMs from time to time and vet those who are interested for her to entertain. Hopefully she gets to play with somebody soon. I'm expecting flakes along the way so I'm mentally preparing her for that.

Really appreciate the bull for doing what he told me he would do the first time he messaged me. My hotwife has awakened and I'm more than happy!

Wife's learning: Listen to what other folks here are saying. For first-timers, look for an experienced bull who can be patient, respectful, and who's only goal is to please the wife. She said if she only had listened right away to what I was suggesting to her before. But I guess she had to experience those things to find out for herself. Night and day difference when talking to an experienced bull and a random joe who thinks they know what they're doing.