My partner is very beautiful, strong, fun, and adventurous. Random details to paint a character profile: She has an extremely high libido, had many partners over the years (but was in a Christian community until mid 20s then she lost her virginity, kinda cute haha), no relationships lasting longer than 2 years, she loves social dancing with random guy friends (I've seen them and don't feel threatened), and she has a million guy friends who hit her up occasionally because she's travelled for many years. She also likes attention and wears really revealing clothing when we go places often. Like a cut off t-shirt, no bra, and yoga pants to show off her gorgeous butt. She said she just likes feeling cute, which seems sweet haha She feels she is ready to settle down and start a family. You can count the number of orgasms she's had on one hand in her life which is sad to me. Also, I think it contributes to her mood when she gets a little angry. Like if we fuck for like an 1 hr she'll chill the day, but I just feel like if we could achieve an O for her it would really relieve much of her unconscious tension that she carries around. Also, if I don't give her a good session then she's horny nonstop, begging for sex, and we end up banging 2-4 times in a day. But it gets exhausting haha

She is extremely fit so the only times I was close to getting her to O was when I was going hard for like 2 hrs. The other time was by increasing the stimulation by bringing a vibrator while I was hitting it from behind. We haven't brought the toy back since :/. She doesn't like finger play, toys, or me performing oral so I'm very limited with my moves. If she isn't stimulated enough she gets in her head then will break the intimacy and it kills the mood. It's also a hit to the confidence because I was able to get my last partner to O like every time.

I told her I dabbled in this a few times and she was chill about it. At one point, (I was under the impression that she didn't really have that much experience from a misunderstanding) I offered a hall pass. She was really excited at first because I was in another city and my intimate game was off for about a month. Then, in excitement, she said gleefully "I'll finally fuck for more than 5 mins!" That hurt, but then she said "Wait, I don't think we're secure enough to do that." I said "I agree, the comment you just made hurt and I'm afraid if we do this and we fight you will say some very hurtful things so maybe later."

I don't believe monogamy for life is realistic anymore, I hope it is but I'm not optimistic. I've been in a 10 year relationship and know that 5-7 year mark is intense. We had an argument today and got space. During that time, I was processing a lot of trauma from my ex leaving me for a friend. I stated that, I am putting a lot at stake loving you because if you hurt my like my last partner, I don't know if I'll recover emotionally. Which is not h I told her just be transparent and have the courage to communicate uncomfortable things in the right settings. Like if we need to make new dynamic changes that is fine, just communicate it. I'm a grown adult and have been here long enough to know that things eb and flow. She said she wouldn't want to do anything to jeopardize what we have because I'm her perfect person. I tell her "yeah but the honey moon ends one day. You gotta promise me you'll communicate things that need to be expressed. If you're repressing thing you'll grow resentful of me and I'll be confused."

I wanted to use toys for a mfm 3way, to try things out maybe open some doors of curiousity but she isn't interested. She said she just loves how I feel inside her and that is enough, no toys. She's expressed that she has dreams regularly having sex with women. I asked if she's bi? She said "Fuck no, I like dick." haha

I want to give it sometime before bringing this HWL up to her again. But I feel like if I can't get her to climax going all in, then I don't know if it's gonna happen with me haha which makes me sad because I really love her and believe she should have more O. I feel like no O ultimately adds up to more tension in her and potentially more fights. So we might have to give this a shot, which is exciting but also anxiety ridden. She could get lost in the sauce and she even expressed that when we were talking about our friend's open relationship. But I am also confident the novelty of the HW experience would get her to O very easily because of how her sexual energy works. She enjoys taboo. But I also think if this were to work with any of my partners it'd be her, if she can respect boundaries and not go too crazy.

Do you think if I ask her in 5 years she'd be down?