When my wife and I started this journey just about a year ago, after years of dipping our toes in (roleplay during sex, posting anonymous photos of her online, her chatting and sharing photos and vids with strangers), we discussed our boundaries and decided that there were a few things that we were almost definitely not interested in. We wanted threesomes and weren't really wanting the full solo date experience. Fast forward a year and after several experiences on the spectrum of moderately disappointing to good, we found a third who is damn near ideal. He's patient, willing to meet just to have dinner/drinks, got tested and provided clean results but said he was good with condoms if that's what we want, never contacted her outside of our group texts, and was never pushy in the slightest. In short, he's made us both very comfortable. On top of these, he's very good at pleasing her.

Fast forward to now and we recently let her go to his house for her first solo play. They filmed the entire adventure for me and he went out of his way to make sure there was some clear, hot footage for me. A few days later, we were all chatting about things we hadn't yet tried but we'd like to. He asked if we'd be interested in DVP. Everyone was on board so we gave it a try (along with quite a lot of other things that left her exhausted). I didn't think I'd be into it but it turned out to be very hot!

All this to say, I think boundaries are important, and everyone should stick to them unless and until all parties "renegotiate" and agree on changes, but keep an open mind. I was surprised by how much our boundaries changed in a relatively short period. Feeling pretty fortunate to have a wife who is willing to enjoy this kind of fun with me!