Hello, I hope everyone is well. Long time lurker, first time poster here. My wife (35f) and I (38m) have been out of the lifestyle for a few years and are looking to jump back in but I'm wondering what apps/websites people are using these days.

We used to use swing lifestyle and reddit. I made free accounts on swing lifestyle, and a few other websites however without a paid account we can't really get a good feel for how many people we have to choose from in our area. I have no problems paying for an account somwhere but I just want to pay for service with the best opportunities. I also made a reddit r4r post but due to low karma I could only post on a local r4r sub and got inundated with dick pics and guys who did not match the criteria we are looking for. We live in a medium sized US city that has no adult clubs or anything like that if it makes a difference.

Also any suggestions to get some of reddit's fake internet points so I can make posts on more populated r4r subs would be great.

Any and all advice is appreciated and thank you ahead of time!