Hi all.

I've posted many many times about how much I'd love my wife to get into hotwifing. Right now it realistically will not happen ever. Why won't it happen? Let me explain.

Wife and I are both 37. We have 2 very young kids. Been married for 6 years... together 9. When I first met my wife she was like everything I wanted. Gorgeous, funny, outgoing, etc. She was pretty conservative which I thought I wanted in a wife. Our sex life was great. We were both in great shape and fucked a lot. Nothing crazy though. No RP, no real dirty talk... just good but more vanilla sex if that makes sense.

Fast forward to now. 2 kids... we are not in the shape we once were. Her lack of confidence in her appearance has really hurt our sex life. But I still find her very attractive and I know others would too. We are both working on getting our bodies back and hoping it'll bring her confidence back.

So here's my question, is it possible to bring up hotwifing to reignite her flame? My initial thought is no! But the other side of me thinks if she knew that guys were desiring her it would excited her, make her feel good. Idk.

She has a tough time viewing herself as anything but a mom is seems. She's a fantastic mom btw.

I'm just at a loss. It's a major major fantasy of mine and has been for so long. Why am I so scared to share this with her? What can I do? Im at a loss lol.