Trigger warnings for sexual assault.

Hello everyone, I've been a bull for about five years now, and I wanted to talk a bit about what I've experienced after something happened the last time I met with my hotwife.

She was upset because we've been in an exclusive situation for about a year and a half and she is very happy. Recently, she said her husband is now pressuring her to go see new bulls because he wants more variety in the porn she makes for him, and she doesn't want to. She confided that in the past she's felt pressured to see other men she did not want to see, and has been assaulted during meetups after she ignored her instincts. She said this was "his" thing and she didn't enjoy it until much further into her time in the lifestyle, but now she likes our arrangement and doesn't want to see anyone new.

The conversation spurred a bigger discussion about the lifestyle, why women get involved, and whether they are doing it for themselves because they enjoy it, or because they want to please their husbands and/or feel they can't say no. If someone feels they can't say no, that's a consent violation, that's sexual manipulation and abuse of power. Your husband is not your pimp, unless you're actively choosing to have that kind of relationship, which was not the case in this instance.

We see so many posts from husband trying to get their wives into the lifestyle, and it's pretty clear they're only thinking about their needs, not the needs of their partner and their partner's safety. My experience with my current hotwife is sadly not the only time I've heard about husbands behaving this way. I told her what he did was abuse and I've been getting her connected with therapy and supports, but she is staying with him. I was torn because I didn't want anything to do with this man anymore, but if we stoppef she said he will start pressuring her again to meet new men. I ultimately chose to end the relationship because I cannot in good conscience have anything to do with him, as much as I will miss the arrangement with her.

This post is mainly meant for women who feel like my hotwife felt. I think there's a blurred line surrounding active enthusiastic consent from women inside this lifestyle and it is extremely troubling. People should only be engaging in the lifestyle from a position of joy, excitement, experimentation, and curiosity, not because they're afraid if they don't their partner will be upset or worse. If this has happened to you, I'm sorry. There is help available. I'm happy to chat in messages if people need support.

Take care, everyone, and keep having all the sexy consensual fun!