Here is the scenario - wife and I are meeting a guy for a second play session. First play session (after a vanilla meet and greet) was a fun MFM (our first ever) in a hotel room with lots of oral but when it came time for a condom and sex, he struggled. I’ve been there so I’ve felt for the guy. He’s clearly into my wife and she into him so I want to do what I can to help for a more successful sexually experience this time. This time we are going to a swinger club. It’s a Thursday so we expect it to be slow. He’s never been to a club before.
A few things I’m thinking about: 1. Offering him a Viagra early in the night. Not sure how to do this nonchalantly without it coming across poorly.
2. There are semi private and private rooms available. I suggested to my wife that I’d be cool if the two of them went in a private room without me to maybe take some pressure off. She’s unsure as she doesn’t think that’d be fun for me but I’m fine. I should be able to hear her from outside the room so that actually sounds hot. Maybe not something I’d do every time but something that would be fun to try. I told her I’d still have sex with there afterwards anyway.

Wife is torn between the fun of two guys at once vs likely better sex and orgasms for her if she can concentrate on one guy. She also is still uncertain when it comes to being a little more selfish (in her head) when I’m not as involved.

What should I do? What should I suggest?