Married couple here. Both 36yo. Male part brought up fantasy over 8 years ago. Back then it was a hard no. Over the years, she has eased up to the idea. She is open to it but says he has a mental block about being with someone else. We’ve met 2 guys before for drinks to see if there’s any attraction or interest but she said she was not interested in either of them after the drinks. I’ve been taking it slow and easy this whole time. She says she needs to develop some sort of interest and attraction before she can go to the next step with the guy. Thinking of maybe asking her to use the apps to find a guy and message/text (that’s been my role so far in finding and messaging the guys) but it’s beyond frustrating weeding out the fakes and flakes. If she tried to message and find guys on the apps, I feel she may be turned off by the whole process of finding the right guy. Any advice on how to proceed?