We started this LS with excellent communication and trust, our sex life has always been wonderful. However, since we’ve started the LS, it’s become clear that after play for us isn’t really an option, due to her complete lack of interest in sex for at least the next day or two.

We’ve had two experiences with the same guy, first time he had a hard time staying hard, but eventually after a few sessions he was able to finish. By the time we got home it was late and she was sore, so I went to bed frustrated.

The next time was this afternoon, he was able to stay hard but couldn’t finish. He said it was due to last night out at a bachelor party with the boys and was dehydrated. Again, she said she was sore and would take care of me this evening when she wasn’t as sore. When the evening pressed on, I noticed she showed no interest in me and sex for us wasn’t going to happen. When we spoke about it, she said she wasn’t wired that way and she just can’t get horny at will. I’m beginning to think, maybe this LS just isn’t for us. I can’t keep going to bed frustrated or waiting a day or two for my turn. I also don’t want her to fake it, just because she thinks that will make me happy. I want my wife to be as turned on and excited about the reconnection sex as I am. At this point I’m just not getting that vibe.

We are still new to this and fumbling our way through the correct way of handling these situations. Any guidance would be greatly appreciated!

In addition, she did admit she felt terrible about me feeling this way and she genuinely wants me to be happy. Our communication and trust are still strong as ever, it’s just the physical challenges we’re facing that feel daunting.