First post here. We are likely older than most here but entering a sexual reawakening of sorts. I am more sexually adventurous and open to things whereas she is more afraid to let go. Don’t get me wrong…she loves sex and as she gets turned on , she gets more adventurous and is multiorgasmic.

While I have always had a secret desire to watch her with others, I only recently told her. She gave the typical response of saying she didn’t want to share me and couldn’t grasp that my only desire was to see her being pleasured without expecting reciprocity.

We do role play, and she really gets into scenarios where she has sex with a stranger, MMF, and even gang bangs. She has a collection of dildos and vibrators, and really gets into it. However, after the moment is over, she always tells me that it is only a fantasy and that she would never do it for real. I see and feel her sexual response during these scenarios, and I know it turns her on, but societal conditioning has made it difficult for her to move forward.

I constantly tell her how pretty she is, how sexy she is, and that I love her unconditionally. I have reiterated that I am not looking for swapping or swinging. I have told her that she can do as much or as little as she wants with whoever she wants, as long as she does so with my knowledge.

Recently we started looking into full body sexual massage and tantric massage. She loves massages and I asked her if she might be interested in one of these “enhanced “ massages. She didn’t really know what was entailed, but the idea really got her hot. I told her that while orgasm is not the goal, the massage could very well lead to it. She wants to do this as long as I am with her and watching. She thought it sounded hot getting massaged in a sexual manner by a man while I was with her. I asked her what would happen if the masseuse got a hard on, and she just shrugged and said she wouldn’t know until it happened. To be honest, I was surprised that she was not only agreeable, but thought it was exciting and hot.

She has also agreed to a yoni massage with a female therapist in the near future. She has always been strictly heterosexual, but is looking forward to sexual exploration with female therapist.

Do these events seem like she is lowering her opposition to the hotwife lifestyle? Fingers crossed.