Long time lurker to the sub. My wife and I have recently entered this lifestyle. We have found a few partners for my wife, one in particular that she is quite fond of.

One of the rules we want to follow is our external partners wearing condoms for obvious reasons. However, I don't think anyone is a fan, male or female of how this feels in the moment. Her new partner is having difficulty staying hard when he has one on, and my wife is sore afterwards.

He is clean and tested, and she is on birth control. I THINK I'm okay with them having sex without a condom, but I'm trying to sort out how I feel and would love input from others in the lifestyle.

To clarify, she is not pushing for this. Just something we have talked about because we all know it would feel so much better for everyone.

Thanks for the help!