Fiancée and I have been together 4 years and have discussed the fantasy of sharing her for the majority of that time. Ever since I first mentioned the idea she has been receptive and we have had a lot of very detailed and graphic discussions about it. Usually during sex and foreplay but incresingly during normal life now too. We are now at the stage where we both clearly like the idea but are struggling to move from our fantasy into reality.

I think partly our fantasy and role play is now fairly explicit and extreme and obviously if we stepped into the lifestyle in real life we would be much more cautious and slow, so sometimes it feels like moving from fantasy to reality would actually be a step back, ie we would have to be careful and cautious and very slow whereas in our fantasy we can explore whatever ideas we want, including the more explicit end of the spectrum.

Two options we are currently considering are either attending a classy sex party, something like Killing Kittens to let her see other people fucking and then to potentially introduce her to other guys, or to make her a dating profile to let her start flirting and then to arrange a meeting if and when it feels right.

Open to any thoughts and ideas from other couples/singles on this conundrum.

Thanks