So I am very interested in bringing another male to the bedroom with my wife. When this thing first started to gain my interest I wasn't sure what exactly I was into. And if I didn't know what I was into how could I approach my wife with it. I kept this fantasy quiet until I explored ideas and scenarios with myself over the last couple of years. At this piint now I am pretty sure what I am looking for out of all this which is to share my wife with another man. Not into the whole humiliation thing. I don't want her off meeting guys solo but to enjoy the experience with her in the moment. I love pleasuring my wife wether it's toys, tongue, fingers, dick or digits. When she comes first my orgasms are so much more powerful and intense and the whole experience is just amazing. We still throw down just a fuck sometimes too but I have a harder time climaxing like that. So why wouldn't I enjoy seeing another man bring her to toe curling enjoyment.

I've really put some though into all of this so figured before I approach her at all I better have atleast a few ground rules that I think I would be comfortable with and they are as follows

1- No solo meets 2- No one we know directly or through friends of friends 3- No anal (both of us are not big into it anyways but every once and a while we go that route) a finger is acceptable, in her though not me 4- No deep french kissing. ( little kisses and neck kisses, ear nibbles all good but I don't wanna watch my wife have a teenage Makeout session) 5- condom for vaginally penetrative, no condom for blowjobs though 6- no swallowing, she can take ot on the face, ass, tits, or where ever else thiugh ( she hates swallowing and only does it for me once in a blue moon anyways) 7- no Cumming inside ( I know I have the rule above about condoms but incase we became more comfortable later on and removed that rule) 8- men refrain from touching eachother ( if during it all we graze or are just in a position the we are touch incidently that's cool but even though I love my balls rubbed I don't want him doing it to me or vice versa) 9- no cuddling after ( we can chill out have a drink or whatever but I don't want that kind of intimacy involved) 10- licking her pussy is absolutely allowed 11- he can't have a massive dick. I don't mind if it's a bit bigger than me but I don't want to feel like it's a competition. I'm not small but I'm not huge, I'm like an average 6" on a really good day i might get to 6 1/2 but I'm definitely girthier than the average guy. So I'm good with an above average cock but I don't wanna look at it and ask what the fuck do you feed that thing. She's not into massive dick anyways all of her dildos are smaller than I am. 12- I don't wanna be left in the dark. Don't want them chatting and texting behind my back. 13- no more than 2 rendezvous with the same guy. Atleast not within a short span. For example we finally make it happen and it was awesome so we set another one up a few weeks later. This is all good but after that second rendezvous, we need a decent break. I'm not exactly sure on the time frame but I would put it for now at like a 6-12 month mark before we did it a third time. If we wanted to do a third round in less than six month then it would have to be with a new guy. 14- I dont care who goes first or last or a second time and it doesn't have to be the entire session her getting stuffed in two holes. I may dip out to grab a drink for a moment come back in and just watch for a few minutes. Maybe jerk off for a bit just admiring how sexy she is or whatever. (This isn't really a rule but just think it should be stated that we let the flow happen as it happens.) If someone comes first they can tap out for a bit and rejoin at any time if the experience is still happening. 15- if either one of us becomes uncomfortable for any reason at anytime it stops immediately. No it's and or butts. This is supposed to be an experience for both of us and if one party isn't enjoying it then it's game over.

Now with all the rules set up it doesn't mean they stay like that forever. I'm all for changing or removing them as we need if our comfort level starts increasing and it's in mutal agreed upon.

I know each couple is different and it really comes down to what works for their relationship but I'd love to get some feed back on this? Is it too many rules here? Did I miss anything that someone has experienced and wish they put in place for their first time?

I've brought this idea of it up to my wife probably about 5 or 6 times over the course of our probably 8 years of our 17 year relationship. The first time it was shot down immediately. I've never forced it on her but when the timing has been right I've brought it up casually. About a month ago we were talking about it and I told her I've already came up with the rules I feel comfortable with (the list above) and when I told her I had it written down in my phone it was the first time she actually seemed interested I'm it. She even said "I thought you only wanted to do it to get me to agree to bringing another women in, but yoy are actually into this" and we had crazy hot sex that night and we were dirty talking to eachother about her fucking another guy. I don't know if we're there yet but I can tell we might be pretty close of the right situation arises.

Apologies for the long winded write up here but if I can get thoughts on all this it would be greatly appreciated