We are first timers dipping our toes in the lifestyle and my wife has become more and more excited to become a hot wife. She isn’t the type of person who can sleep with someone without building a connection first.

She has a guy she has been talking with for a month or so and they have really hit it off and he is looking like the real deal for us. He is respectful of me and has been showing her a ton of respect but he seems to be a little advanced and eager when it comes to kink and sex, which is off putting for my wife. She is wondering if I need to step in and talk to him and ask him to tone it down a little.

How much involvement should I have at this point? We don’t want to lose the opportunity, can he be molded to what she needs from him or should we move on and look for other options?