So I have been slowly getting into this lifestyle after a while. My husband was the one who initiated this whole idea about a year ago or so. Initially, I wasn't immediately into it. It was confusing and I didn't really know how to think about it. But over time I came around to the idea slowly. To his credit, my husband didn't push me to think about it, really. It was truly an organic decision as I thought about it.

Anyway, at this point I've gone on a three dates with different people but did not find any spark with any of them. I've chatted with a few people online and through apps, but I'm really feeling sort of bad about myself. Am I being too picky? I don't consider myself promiscuous so it's hard for me to really dive into the desire or need to have sex just for the sake of sex.

I guess my question is, since I got married I was SO happy to be done dating. Now I feel like I have to get back into the dating scene and I remember how awful it was. It's stressful, anxiety-inducing, and really is a hit to my self-image. Any advice on how to proceed? I'm curious how people are meeting others (what avenues or apps or whatever do you use?). How do you handle those first date jitters? I've been clear with all my dates about what the situation is, so I'm not worried about that, but it's still stressful to meet someone for the first time. I suppose I just need a pick-me-up, maybe? Any advice is really appreciated!