Long time lurker and first time contributor here. Thought I would share how I first started in the lifestyle as, for some reason, it has been on my mind a lot lately. Bit of a long one. My husband and I had been married about 5 years when things started being a little mundane and boring, including our sex. We began fighting a lot, probably out of frustration. We had a particular bad fight one day and during the make up we both expressed how boring we had become. We started talking about how we could spice things up generally and out of nowhere, I blurted out we should go to a swingers club, half joking. Straight away hubby thought it was a great idea and was online looking up clubs. He found a place not far from us and booked in. We had no idea what we were doing but just went with it. We turned up a couple of nights later and were really disappointed. Nothing like we had expected and only a handful of people. We decided to leave and headed to the door when we heard a voice say “you leaving already?”. I turned around and it was the most gorgeous guy. He was an absolute adonis, just standing there nude. I was mesmerized. We chatted a little before he asked for our details. I gave him my number and we left. We started texting a few days later, very innocent at first then things became more flirty and risqué. I would show hubby each time and we would have sex right then and there. We couldn’t understand what had come over us. This went on for a few weeks until the adonis said we should meet up for a drink. I asked hubby and after thinking about it, he said “a drink couldn’t hurt”. The night came and I got myself all ready to head out when hubby said that he was going to come to make sure I was ok and for security. We got to the bar and he was waiting, not one bit surprised or put off that hubby was there too. We chatted, had a few drinks and laughed. He really made me feel relaxed. At the end of the night, hubby and I decided to head home. As we left the bar and as we were saying our goodbyes, I gave the adonis a hug. The hug lingered and soon he began to kiss my neck before passionately kissing me. Hubby later told me that when we were hugging, the adonis had signaled for permission and he had nodded his agreement. I told hubby that I forgot he was even there…lol. We continued kissing for a while before hubby suggested that maybe we should go back to ours for some more drinks. We got to our place and fixed some drinks when the adonis stepped forward and began to kiss me again in our kitchen. I looked at hubby and he was just there smiling before nodding his head in approval of what was happening and maybe going to happen. The adonis lifted me onto the counter top allowing my skirt to ride up as I wrapped my legs around him, drawing him closer. We began to fondle each other slowly removing our clothes. He picked me up again and took me to the lounge where we had sex. It was good….damn good and this guy certainly knew all the right moves. It was the first time I had been with another man in over 10 years. All with hubby watching with a smile on his face. After exhausting ourselves, the adonis called an Uber and as was leaving he asked “how does it feel to be a hotwife now?”. Hubby and I didn’t know what he was talking about and when he left, had to google it…lol. Since that night, our journey has exploded. Hubby and I persisted with swingers clubs and I have been on several other dates (some good and some not good) and most without hubby but with his full knowledge. The reclaiming after has meant our sex life and communication is now next level and I can’t remember the last time we fought. The experiences and freedom we have is amazing. Our advice to you if you are thinking of making leap is do it!