We live in the Deep South and she (31F) is now very prudish . In her college days, she would be fairly adventurous such as making out with other girls.

I (32M) found out she met a guy at a bar and made out with him in his dorm room while we were engaged. After we were married, I discovered she was sending pictures of herself in the bathtub to a coworker. Although I was hurt at the time, I am pretty sure this is where this fetish started for me.

When we were dating, she would send racy texts, pictures and was the one who initiated sex the first time. After we got married, she went sexually frigid pretty quick with me. At one point, we went almost a year with no sexual contact. She hates giving blowjobs and it was only with great reluctance that I finally convinced her to let me give her oral, which she now loves.

I know the general advice is to have a frank conversation with her, but she hates talking about sex. I even tried to ask her if she had any fantasies or things that turn her on and she said no. She Hates any kind of dirty talk, and when we do have sex, it is always with the lights off. She hates me touching her sexually anywhere outside the bedroom and only at her instigation.

I have a rough idea of how to start down the path, but do yall have any ideas or suggestions? TV shows we could watch that have hotwife elements to start a conversation? Or should I give up and resign myself to the fact that this will forever be fantasy only?