For a little backstory, my wife had a brain aneurysm in 2018. She spent three weeks in ICU and had to learn to walk again and write. I was there through all of it. As a result, it has left her with a myriad of physical problems (headaches, fatgue, numbness in legs) and at times bouts of depression, social anxiety and memory problems. Outwardly no one would ever know. No one could never tell what her and I struggle with. Last night she was very depressed and in pain. I held her, told her how much I love her and did my best to be everything she needed in that moment. Some time in the night I eventually fell asleep. When we woke up this morning she told me about a text conversation she had with our 3rd discussing how she was feeling and that deserve better than her and how she is holding me back. I reassured her this morning telling her that none of that is true. I gladly do all of the things I do for her because I love her and wish I could do more. I also made it known that I was troubled by her conversation with him and that it's I should be the one she's discusses these feelings with, not him. She said it's no different than talking to a friend. I didn't press the issue and plan to discuss it again later. Should I be concerned or upset with what happened? Am I making more of this than it is?