A little bit of a cautionary tale. It was a fun ride but stopped before we even really started going.

This was basically a kink of mine, like many in here. She was always really kinky in her head but had a lot of fear and guilt, so I eased her into the idea of exploring her kinks. As she became more open with them, she liked the idea of other guys more too. About a year ago she started with online play. It was fun and continued to progress with different guys. I should have caught the red flag, that she REALLY easily got hung up on guys. The first regular guy held her back. The second did too, but since he lingered she really got some wires crossed. One night, I was having a bad night and rather than dealing with me, she went to a friends house to fuck around with him, despite my pleas for her not to. She changed passwords and deleted texts. This is when things should have ended. I wanted it to work so bad that I accepted that "she really didn't know she was doing something wrong", or "I wanted it so bad for so long, she didn't know it would upset me". I was blinded by my dick and forgave and forgot with some updated rules for us.

Fast forward, new guy, similar situation. This guy started off different though. He wasn't into the lifestyle and just some guy she liked. He knew she had a "boyfriend" but wasn't into the sharing, so I basically made room for them. One night, ok, two hmmm... I asked her to cut it out and she said "It won't last long, just let me be young and cool for once", so I helped her out. I like her having fun, but days turned into weeks until I told her it's enough, and I'm not sitting around with this anymore. She still continued to wake me up with late night calls to him where I had to shut the fuck up because he didn't know I was around, and I told her no more. So she changed passwords, and did a poor job of hiding and doing the same things, waking me up etc... I told her I would not tolerate any sneaking around and these activities where I'm cut out needed to stop. Pointed out that it had been weeks since we did anything together despite my constant asking, which she even complained about. Again, we should have ended here. After a couple weeks with no improvement I told her all of this needs to end, which she pleaded to let it keep going and she'd be better. After a few days going back and forth, I decided to let it go. I hated every minute away from her knowing there was a good chance she was chatting to some guy. It made me hate the whole idea of hotwifing. I tried to suck it up for a couple weeks like this and I was starting to hate her for it and I called it off. I told her we can't do it. I tried. She tried her begging again and I said no. She started making an effort to act like she wanted to be with me again and the second night asked if we could play with a friend. I said no and she shut down. We went to bed mad, but she got up in the middle of the night to chat with a friend anyway. This was really when the shit hit the fan. I made it very clear it's over over over. She's discarding her lingerie, makeup, toys and other things that remind her of this...

Now she's pissed, I'm upset. Just a mess.

AMA.