Heyyyy all - We mostly use LS sites to connect with thirds and stags and whoever else we're interested in exploring a connection with, but the more we do this the more we realize there's a good number of kinky people out there and we probably unwittingly have some lifestylers in our circle, just based on odds alone. My husband and I often talk about who we think might swing in some fashion - in fact, it's common meal or bedtime fodder for us to discuss.

While we're not necessarily looking to out ourselves inadvertently to most in our orbit, nor are we wanting me to necessarily hook up with any of them, we do have some curiosity in who might be of similar viewpoint as us. Additionally, I DO have a fantasy of meeting someone "in the wild" for play, but also know this is super duper unlikely to have a good chance of happening AND being an excellent experience...

Ultimately, how are you lovely people "testing out" if those you know/meet are into what you are? I know the anklets and all that stuff to signify HW, but what about men? Or do you just ask people "are you into fucking anyone that's not your wife/husband?" (lol, obv not)... what kinds of subtle nudges or turns of phrase are you using?

Teach me your ways.