Husband and wife joint post!

Long time lurkers and first time posters. We created this throwaway account as we’re pretty active on Reddit to include a few subreddits with family members and friends that don’t need to know the details of our marriage. We decided to share the details of our sex life and different arrangements we have after seeing for ourselves the vast differences between couples. We wanted to share what works for us and inspire others. Labels suck; I don’t think we fit into anyone in particular, maybe a little of them all!

Anyway, we’ve been married for 10 years, been together for 10 years and 6 months. Yeah, we fell head over heels for each other real quick.

We are both in our lates 30s, previously married and have two kids together. Neither of us had anything outside of ordinary monogamous sex before each other. So far, no one in our inner circles has a clue about our adventures. We figure if anyone wants clarification, opinion or help (in their own lives) in regards to any of what we discuss we would could answer in a Q & A fashion. This is a forum, let’s interact!

So about year 5 of our marriage we started really digging into ways to spice sex up. We are both incredibly in love with each other and still see each other as the perfect sexual mate. But like anything, variety is the spice of life. Everything we do, we do with each other (figuratively.) Everything is done through the lens of both self pleasure and pleasure/tease for the other. We began using dating apps to find thirds (always female) and dipped our toes into threesomes. Online dating, so to speak, became frustrating and we gave up after 1 solid success and approximately 69 (lol his joke) failures. We’ve since gone about finding others the old fashioned way; as you travel through life. So to break it down and include a few rules, the following is what we’ve established:

We’ve embraced an open relationship, sort of with a strong hotwife theme. Sex only, no bf/gf, no feelings, no real interaction outside that required to initiate sex. Wr are free to communicate and flirt with anyone privately while all messages are shared (goes both ways). This has actually become the most fun. At the end of a good day we’ll swap phones and start masturbating to each others messages with our new friends and end up fucking each other like crazy.

All of the people we’ve met so far have been public run-ins like kids sporting events (reputation risky), bars/restaurants, coffee shop, general shopping (target, grocery store etc) and work (reputation risky also). She prefers younger (21ish) or older (50 ) as we’ve found they are the least likely to cause drama. He takes whatever comes his way that meets his standard, but prefers 40 , again also less drama.

Precations:

-her tubes are tied and he’s snipped -zero anal sex -intercourse requires condom -We vet every new person through paid databases. We also always share location and all pertinent details with each other. -generally, one night stands or maybe a handful of meetups. Sometimes we ghost, sometimes we don’t. This is to avoid unintentional feelings being developed -4/5 times the other is aware we’re married -we will get shit for this one but here it goes: we’ve both been with a married other that was cheating. It was the most easy, NSA, drama free sex in our lives. That said, married is now a hard no. -zero cucking/humiliation in either direction, others are never put on a pedestal above each other.

Through this, we have developed secret personas that we use to tease, demand, and please each other with. She is a horny nympho hotwife that craves cock (and occasionally pussy) She won’t hesitate to share her random sex thoughts with her husband even if they don’t include him. He is a playboy lady killa’ that gets what he wants and loves coming home smelling like he just got some.

Over the years we’ve had heated arguments regarding everything above. And every single one boiled down to lack of communication. Talk talk talk. (Then fuck fuck fuck)

He no longer really cares for ffm threesomes, prefers 1v1 OR (and honestly more, Her being a hotwife). She loves the occasional mfm. We’ve only accomplished that twice. Oh, and we’ve been to several swinger parties and one sex club. Not to offend those that like them or have had success, it just wasn’t for us. Felt too forced, and not concerning consent, but just the atmosphere. We guess that we enjoy the chase and build-up.

As far as success rates…in 5ish years she’s had 10 men, he’s had 4 women. We’re not really keeping track, it’s fun for us regardless. As you can see, we’re not every weekend swinger types. We have job, lives, our family and of course each other. It’s been just enough to keep things interesting.

Any questions?