I know every couple is different and will have their own preferences likes/dislikes etc. My wife and i have discussed and role-played for a good few years now and since then end of last year my wife said she was now definitely im a place where she wanted to turn our fantasy into reality. She doesnt want to force anything and would prefer something happening naturally, like say meeting a guy on a night out with her friends and their was sexual chemistry between them. In that situation we had agreed that if she wanted she could act on it without me being present, but that she would message me while im at home to let me know she had met someone and then if she decided to take things further at the end of the night to again message and keep me updated and make sure im still on board. (What she had said) i said she needn’t worry about me not being in board ha Recently my wife asked me how i would feel if instead of her messaging me if/when she meets someone that she would rather not get in touch with me and just be in the moment and that if she does end up sleeping with another guy that she would rather it this way and not tell me anything until she is home. I did say i would love to hear before hand as it excites me, but if she feels more comfortable this way then im happy to go with it. Does this still have me involved enough in the eyes of the HW lifestyle?