Been wanting to share our story on here for a while now, in the hopes that we can be of service to other couples getting involved with this lifestyle.

Hoping to do a sort of Ask Me Anything (if anyone is remotely interested).

I’m a happily married husband to an incredible hotwife. We’ve been going strong in this lifestyle for a little over a year now and have some incredibly hot experiences under our belt.

We also played as a couple for two years in the swinging lifestyle prior to this.

The transition to hotwifing felt seamless and like the next logical step in our progression. Overall, we’re both much more happy with this arrangement, for a number of reasons.

Some stats:

Us: Ages 37 and 41. Happily married for 18 years.

Numbers: She’s had 5 play partners so far, for a total of around 12 meet ups—in the flesh. And quite a few more she plays with online (video chat, sexting, etc.). We have yet to have a really negative experience with any of the physical thirds (knock on wood). Though there have been setbacks a couple times that required us to communicate our way out.

Format: We have tried both me watching (and occasionally videoing) and her playing alone. I generally prefer her playing alone, which surprised me initially. She is happy either way.

Vetting: We are very careful with our vetting process. Rarely spontaneous. Clean tests and trust are a must. Neither of us has any interest in her thirds using condoms (unless he insists, which most do not). We have been successful on both fetlife and Reddit for finding thirds.

The lifestyle has been an incredible supercharge to an already great friendship and sex life. Most of our friends consider us one of the most successful marriages they know. We agree.

So if I can be of help to any other husbands along this journey, let me know. I’ve dealt with jealousy. We’ve had some tough conversations. But the good has vastly outweighed the bad, and we feel stronger as a couple than ever.

Ask me anything.