Mrs SD and I have been having a lot of conversations about sex. It's quite amazing that even after more than 2 decades of fucking each other, we still can talk about sex - and find out new things about one another. Perhaps sexual conversation has had a bad reputation for too long. TALK ABOUT YOUR SEX, PEOPLE.

One thing that came up though, is that she no longer thinks too much of how it feels to have another cock. She won't mind someone who is hung and who knows what they're doing. It'll be pure sexual pleasure for her. But even through it, she thinks that she will only focus on one thing.

"I'm waiting to see how master wants to be pleased."

That... That's me. Holy fucking shit.

We've been exploring D/s more (Domination and submission). It's partly because of life struggles and reality - we simply don't HAVE the time or energy to vet and meet others in the lifestyle so often. It takes a lot of effort to find someone who I'd hand my wife over naked to, and feel that we're not doing something really stupid and harmful. We have some old friends whom we trust and whom we know are safe. Not condom safe, more of drama free safe.

That does mean some missed chances, I'm sure. Hotwifing was partly to see how high a height her sexuality and orgasms could go. Cervical-pressure orgasms aren't something I can provide easily (except through artificial means). So giving up on the lifestyle and looking for playmates means that we will miss out on some of those heights. (I still have the videos though, and I still play them back and watch them with my blushing bride.)

Instead, we're exchanging it for... width and depth (looks at my own belly). We're pushing different boundaries. Gently sometimes, firmly sometimes, gently AND firmly sometimes. Domination is a full on mind game especially if I choose not to be physically dominating. I didn't know you could dominate someone with kindness and compliments, while gently choking them. And whispering in her ear, how much I'm obsessed with every inch of her. I love it. I love tapping into my own strengths - which aren't necessarily physical. I love dominating her with a name and words alone. I love that she melts her body against mine when I do that.

Reminder. If you're not in a love relationship, do NOT get obsessed with someone physically. Unless that's what you both want.

Hotwifing can ebb and flow. That's really what I want to share in this post. Opening the relationship sexually can go in multiple directions. Nothing is set in stone - there would be couples who would play for 20 over years, or some that end up in poly relationships. Or divorce amidst a messy situation. Ours has taken this turn, as we actually have to take time now to study what actually pleases me sexually. That's not as simple as it sounds since I'm not a normatively sexual man. We might still hotwife because I do still enjoy watching her pleasure. But that's no longer just the main theme of our sexual play.

To the rest of the aspiring and active hotwifing couples out there - keep having fun and stay safe! But remember - your relationship should always come first.

Mr SD