Long story, sorry

I (36m) have been married to my wife (37f) for 12 years, and we've been together for 15. I've fantasized about the lifestyle for the entire relationship, and it's never been a secret. My wife, though very open sexually, has never shown any interest in it...but it has come up in pillow talk pretty regularly for years. She's always said she's not into it, and would never consider it.

In the last year my wife had lost some weight (she looks great), and is back to her college athlete (volleyball) physique. She has been 100x's more confident and recently started dressing sexier when we go out. Sexy bras, thongs, bodysuits, makeup, etc. I'm sure she has been getting more attention at the gym and at work too.

I had teased her about getting hit on by guys when we went out for date/dinner 2 weeks ago. She told me she thought that would be sexy. I offered to take her to a bar and watch it happen, but she declined.

Fast forward a week and she was getting ready for a 4 day conference accross the country. I joked about flying out so I could have sex with her at the resort. She mentioned maybe she would just pick up a guy there. I teased her back, and she said maybe she'd try downloading tinder just in case. 'Just for fun.'

We lied in bed and made her a profile. Guys starting pouring in as she swiped. She texted back and forth a bit while we fooled around. A couple days before she flew out and started narrowing it down to like 3 guys semi local. I asked her how serious she was about this during sex the day before she left, and she said she was thinking about maybe doing a meet-n-greet, but she wasn't sure. Certainly wasn't ready to have sex.

The next day on the plane she kept giving me updates. By the time she landed she decided on a meet-n-greet with 1 guy and deleted the app. In total, she's texting 3 guys now that moved to fb messenger. I got more updates everyday, and she masterbated thinking to her guy 1 night.

So she's flying back tomorrow, and told me earlier she is going to meet this guy Sunday morning for breakfast, and then go to a hotel monday night for sex. I'm 100% ok with this. Then a little while ago, she called and asked if I could just book the hotel for Saturday night so she could just get fucked and be done with it on that sunday mornings meeting. Then she talked about hitting up one of the other guys mid week.

So I don't mind how this worked out. But I'm a little nervous my wife is going too fast. She went from 'I could never...' to 'let's just meet for introductions' to meeting 2 different men at hotels the same week in the course of like 7 days. I don't want to dissuade her, but I don't want her going into anything she hasn't properly thought through, either.

Is this how these things usually go down? I thought maybe we would spend 6 months narrowing down to a first date with no expectations. I tried broaching the subject a little bit ago, but she just thought I didn't want her to go. I told her I was all for it...and she was like 'OK, I'm getting dick Sunday morning.'

I don't want to ruin a good thing here. I can't wait for her to come home after getting laid. I just don't know if she's ready emotionally for what she's got lined up.

Any advise or things I might have overlooked, let me know. Sorry for the wall of text! Just looking to protect my princess from doing anything she'll regret (and probably blame on me, for encouraging it).

Thanks