So wife (F28) and I (M31) have been discussing hotwifing for about a year. Progressively opened up wife went from never to curious to now planning out first session. Have done a few basic starters like her dress sexy, let another guy buy her a drinks while I watch, and discussed fantasy in bed having sex. One of our rules is only play if ever during vacations and her only play with others amoung other things.

We are going to Barcelona (which is a city my wife always wanted to visit and party since a teenager, important for later) both decided here to be our first time hotwife. However the issue is how to approach this, she reluctantly does not want me to see her having sex with somebody else at least for now as will feel pressured, awkward, and not enjoy. After extensive research I proposed going to a swinger club (OOPS) and only her play we can meet the guy together and start having sex (her and I) then her and the guy go to the private rooms, while I wait. Her and I can the can keep partying afterwords their or go someplace else. I feel this is safe, would be in the same venue, I meet the person, a safeish environment. She does not like this idea; starting out in a swinger club is a bit much for her. I promise her I would not do anything but is reluctant to leave me while she goes with somebody else, says “feels weird about it”. She rebuttal the idea with her opening bumble which wife will not have an issue finding somebody, act single going on a date to a bar close to our hotel and having a ONS in our hotel. She says it would be so hot to act single as she imaged (as a teenager) going to Barcelona during uni/college having sex with stranger (kinda a kink/fantasy of hers) for one night and afterwords we can party that night just us two which is what she wants. I don’t agree on this as it’s potentially unsafe with a stranger, then alone in hotel room, and I would not vet or know, plus the “she single” lie. She said she would leave WhatsApp location on, let me know of everything, be safe, and tell the person the truth eventually. Told her to use 3fun, Feeld, etc. but as our first experience wife feels it can be raunchy we have checked and only older gentleman in these apps in Barcelona.

Should I just take it as a win; let her take over, and am I overthinking it and overreacting?