My fiance and I have been together for four years, and we've recently started exploring the hotwife lifestyle. While the idea of seeing my fiance with another man turns me on loadsl, the post nut clarify always hirs hard. My fiance is supportive of my desires, but we both struggle with the aftermath making her skeptical about pursuing this any further.

We occasionally engage in dirty talk about having a threesome with another guy, which always excites us, but I'm usually the one initiating it. It always makes my fiance cum hard but then we bother get a bit embarrassed about it after.

I'm looking for advice on how to navigate this fantasy in a way that respects both of our feelings and boundaries. I've considered suggesting making a Tinder account for my fiance with a description along the lines of 'looking for a hung guy to tag team me witb my fiance' and have sex while guys message her - but I worry that might be too big a step for us right now. What are some other baby steps we could take?

Before we get married I believe it's probably a good idea to explore this fantasy fully and decide if it's something we want to pursue or keep as a fantasy. Speaking to other couples/hotwifes would be great but where do we find them?

One concern I have is our differing preferences – while I'm more into the idea of her being with multiple men, she might prefer a regular partner. Is this a red flag, and how do other couples navigate such discrepancies?

Another worry is the potential for our relationship to become essentially poly if we involve other partners. How do couples keep their relationship romantically monogamous while having playmate?

I apologize for the lengthy post, but any advice would be great