(UPDATED repost to fall within guidelines per a mod's request)

A little over a year ago we had about the worst experience imaginable. My wife and I entrusted a guy for her to play solo with, and he violated multiple boundaries before assaulting my wife he took off the condom and pinned her down). This obviously knocked us out of the lifestyle for over a year, but after discussing mistakes that were made, this lifestyle has now been dusted off by my wife.

So we were sexting today (since we are long distance) and she ssurpisingly said that she maybe wanted to try sexting with other guys. This was something she did before in the buildup to being with other men, and it felt like a big step forward. The issue was, she told me that she had no guys she could reach out to in her life because the old sexting buddies had all gone.

The universe must have been listening because somebody from her university friend group had reached out to her. This guy had genuinely disappeared for years and just reactivated his social media last week.

She told me they were catching up and he did ask her if she was single. Obviously she told him about us, but he still asked her to meet for lunch anyways. It's not like she was asking for permission, but I had no problem with it anyways. The interesting thing was that she said, as long as he was respectful and things went well, she may want to go dancing with this friend in the future too. She's been looking for a dance partner and my wife did end up asking for my permission for that. Naturally, I gave an enthusiastic yes, but I also told her to be cautious because the guy is clearly into her.

Not even an hour ago, my wife asked for my expectations and boundaries about this lifestyle if we were to re-enter it. I told her exactly what I like about it - that I'm only into her and that I have a voyeurism kink. Wanting to see her with men is the natural result of those two things together.

So here we are, even after a year of a break with no expectations of ever returning, and things seem to be heating up a bit. I wanted to share this because I wanted to show that if you have a partner that you can have open and honest conversations with, it is possible for things to get better even when they seem down.

Best of luck to you all.

This is a slight UPDATE to the post pasting from one of my replies below). This is all happening very fast. My wife got extra horny last night and admitted to me that she would feel comfortable sleeping with this guy. They were good friends in the past and she would feel safe with him, unlike the nightmare guy that was an acquaintance. She and him exchanged texts last night for a bit, and she agreed to put him in touch with me so that this guy understands the privilege he may have with touching my wife and the expectations with that. They set up a tentative meet for lunch on Sunday, with the possibility of more. They have indeed dirty-talked a bit about what he wants to do to her, and she then dirty-talked with me about how she wants him to use her on video for us.

She and I also talked about some boundaries, logistics, and expectations, which was very productive.

After my wife's horniness wore off as it got late, she felt conflicted on whether she should see him solo or wait for me to be there. This is all still TBD, so we will see where it goes from here.