My wife and I enjoy the fantasy of HWing but almost certainly would never do it IRL. I'm certainly more into it than she is, but in the right time and place (during sex) she will occasionally bring it up. She in fact was the one who brought it up originally, but strictly in the sense of fantasy. Our fantasy would fall into Loving HW camp, not the cheating or dominance camp. We have been talking about it for a couple of years at least now. But she finds it difficult to discuss outside of when we are getting it on. I don't exactly understand why, but she gets nervous(?) or uncomfortable when I bring it up.

Ok, sorry for that background but I thought it might be helpful to give context to my ask here.

For Christmas, she agreed to playing pretend with me on a private WhatsAp group. I'll ask her if I can hang out with friends on night X. She will respond 'No, I have a date that night' or something like that. Then I encourage her to have fun, offer to have something waiting for her when she gets home (dinner, a candle lit bath etc). It's all pretend and she is actually going to workout of hang out with friends. She is still a bit uncomfortable even with this, but she says it's still OK and is getting more relaxed with time.

Any ideas on fun things to throw in that kind of an exchange? Questions I could be asking? Or things I might say to her to make her feel special, loved? Or ideas of how I could (in real life) show her my appreciation when she comes home?

Thanks!