I see MANY questions from guys asking how to turn their wife into a "hotwife", or something along those lines. I do consider myself quite experienced in the lifestyle with 10 years into it and been involved in swinger parties, orgies, clothing optional resorts, swinger cruises, BDSM events etc. So I do consider myself to have a solid background to give especially new couples advice on this. So ill share some advice add some of my real life experiences with my wife to give some more depth to my statements. I do not consider myself and my wife a "hotwife" dynamic, we are 100% swingers but have experimented with hotwife scenarios. This advice is definitely applicable if you are pursuing a full on hotwife dynamic.

Firstly men, you cannot just "turn" your wife into a hotwife. Especially in relationships where it has been strictly monogamous since the beginning. The absolute best thing you can do is to create an environment where she can let her wild side loose. You need to create an environment where she knows she won't be judged and she can let her inner slut come out and express it with you. (Disclaimer:THIS DOES NOT MEAN MANIPULATING HER. You must be totally okay with the fact that she might not want to be a slutty hotwife and you cannot force her otherwise). This process can take months, hell it can even take you years like it did mine. It can be slow, but it can be a great time.

I started out by complimenting my wife way more. This made me realize how little i complimented my wife in the past, and that I definitely needed to tell her more often that she was hot asf. You need to make your wife feel sexy, telling her that her ass is amazing, she has a great body, her thighs are sexy etc etc. Anything you like about her. Give her some spanks on the ass and feel her up more not only in the bedroom, but as you do your day to day tasks in the house. Make her feel as if you crave her and can't keep your hands off her. Again, this is creating an environment where she feels sexy and free to release her sexy side.

After that, I started pointing at clothing and underwear what I thought I would like her in. Skimpy bikinis, thongs, lingerie, tight dresses etc. She was at first shocked by me saying this because I never asked her to do dress like that before, but overtime she became quite interested in it. I started surprising her with sexy, short, tight revealing clothing. Whenever we went out on dates she wore these outfits.

I remember at a holiday resort we went to for a weekend she wore a sexy bikini what revealed her entire ass. She got quite the few stares from some guys, and even told me she got approached by a guy when she was alone by the poolside.

Eventually we accumulated a little wardrobe of sexy clothing what she wears around the house and when we go out on dates.

The best thing I did however, was introducing fantasies to our bedroom talk. I started talking about people watching us as we had sex, then eventually escalated the fantasies to us having sex at swinger events. I started sharing the idea of us playing at sex parties with other couples and singles. And I even brought in the idea of including other men in our play.

We started including dildos into our sex, with me thrusting in her from behind and her sucking the dildo, and vice versa. Eventually we even included 2 dildos, with me fucking her and watching her swap between sucking two dildos. This is something she would've never done before, but since I let her know that this is a judgment free zone she let loose and enjoyed herself.

And just like that, she took pride in being my slut. She enjoys going out with me and wearing revealing clothing, she enjoys fantasies about other cocks and we had various hotwife type experiences.

It boosted our already good sex life tremendously. Hope any interested guys/couples out there find this post and find something useful in it. Remember, i am only a person sharing my experiences and what I did to succeed. Its okay if you had a different path.