I never understood the dom sub sexual role playing but it's something my wife enjoys. I discovered the appeal of rough sex when she would do things experimenting with hotwifing but all of the dom sub things and bondage in most cases seems corny. Bondage can be nice if there is a reason like her being bound and blindfolded and not knowing if this could be the time someone else fucks her. Or even her handcuffing me to tease me but it's boring if there is no other point.

I would describe myself as dominant outside of the bedroom. Inside I don't see it as either or but I am into things other people may see as being slightly submissive. For instance preferring to give oral over receiving. Nothing wild. I would never let anybody peg me.

She is submissive in and out of the bedroom. To a fault if you ask me, dealing with other people sometimes. We have bad fights but she generally prefers me being in charge. Sexually she would like me using her more instead of doing things to her but for me I do it because I like doing it. It makes me horny eating her out and I don't get much out of her sucking my dick.

I think she would like it if I told her to fuck someone else as long as I was confident about it. I told her to in the past being honest that I was unsure how I would feel afterwards and it caused huge problems. So I disagree with many here in that I think some women want to be forced or pushed but in those cases the husbands demeanor makes all the difference. Are there any wives here who feel this way?

I see some women saying they can't see their husband in the role of a "dom". I cringe using this word but they say they see the husband as the protector or as being there for safety and can't take him seriously in this role. I don't know if my wife feels like that. I suppose she doesn't feel I'm dangerous because she knows I wouldn't want to unalive her if I'm choking her. Is that why the dom is more exciting? Maybe this is a bad example but it's all I can come up with at the moment. I know many stags and hotwife husbands see themselves in this role but I have seen a lot of wives saying they can't see their husband this way.