Hey guys. I'm a newbie (30) and the lifestyle fascinates me. However, I'm not sure about it and I'm worried it would affect our happy marriage of four years.

Let me share a few conversations, I've so far had with my wife (28). Pls do share, your opinions

The first conversation happened when we were on a getaway and was quite tipsy.

The discussion began when she told me that a friend of hers whom I knew well was getting divorced. She had been having an affair and her husband found out. I told her that there were lots of people having affairs and talked about a colleague of mine who was having an affair that his wife had no clue about.

In this context, I asked her if she had a crush on anyone at her office. She had a naughty smile and she told me about this older guy at work. He too was married. I teased her a bit and asked if she would ever act on it.

She told me that there was no point since he was like 10 years older and happily married. I then asked her what would she do, if he had made an advance. She thought for a bit and said that she wouldn't act on it since she's committed and in love with me.

I then took a chance and told her that if it's just sex then I wouldn't mind as long as she tells me about it beforehand and doesn't do it behind my back like an affair. She was taken a back. She asked me how would that even work. I tried to support my statement by saying that lying about it is graver issue since it's violate trust and I'm okay if she pursues a sexual interest as long as it doesn't affect our relationship.

She said that it wouldn't be practical since she can't have sex with someone without being emotionally involved. I tried to counter it saying that it was not true since many have one night stands. (I for a fact know that she was in a dating app hookup phase before we met). She said that it was still weird and somehow we drifted out of the convo.

Recently, when we were having a beer and were watching a movie in which a divorce storyline was going on in the plot. She asked me what would be a situation where I would divorce her. I told her that as long as we have open communication and love, I wouldn't think about it. She insisted for more reasons again and I said lying and violating trust may become a reason. She asked whether I would divorce her if she cheated on me.

I brought back the previous discussion and told her that like I said before if it's just to scratch a sexual itch then I wouldn't mind as long as she doesn't do it behind my back. She said: so you want me to tell beforehand or after? I was like beforehand would be more honest. She asked wouldn't it affect us and I told her it might since many sexual relationships come with attachments.

We didn't talk much about it afterwards. Do you think she too is into this? How can I move forward from here? Feel free to comment or DM.