To summarize I (M31) told my Wife (F28) about my hotwife fantasy about 10 months ago and she took it really well. Had doubts, insecurities, thinking I wanted to becoming swingers etc. however communicated and created mutual trust, within a weeks already fantasizing with other people and planning her fucking other guys. I messed up and started obsessing about the idea becoming too pushy backfiring until wife mentioned she wanted to pump brakes and not talk and make it a thing anymore. Respected her and told her to let me know when she is ready and for her to bring it up, if ever. There have been opportunities and flirting with the idea without ever actually saying it.

While on vacation for new years I left for an hour and sent wife a link about a wife explaining her hotwife life story; I came back and we discussed the article. Told her I understand I mentioned we would wait until she brings this up but she thanked me and said if I never brought this up she would never have. Article challanges women to see hotwife fantasy as a comparison to men who are gay. Partner can suppress even repress idea but if will always be their for their partner. Wife can either address in a constructive and positive way or not, causing a wedge in sexual marriage while husband jerks off secretly to the idea. This really caught wife attention mentioning she didn’t want a sexual tension in our marriage. So she welcome idea and conversation.

She asked what I wanted to do told her first of all it’s what she is comfortable and I will never force or push her again. Explained it’s the idea of her being sexual wanting sex, my turn on is her being turned on. Then talked about her being a slutty for a day just for me and we decided to go to a beach club and with her bikini underneath undress infront of many guys. Then talk to strangers at the pool/bar, even ordered herself a shot and drank one with a random guy. I kept going in and out asking how she was feeling and encouring her telling how hot she felt until she got very tipsy and stayed with me. We had fun which was encouraging later had crazy sex that day i came twice in her without stopping just kept going and was hard again and I told her all the beach club wanted to fuck her and she got so turned on with that more than I have ever seen her.

The next day we woke up had sex and she said she really liked it and I asked if she wanted more and she said like what I asked her to create a bumble profile only while on vacation and without any expectations flirt with some guys (we took a break for about 6 months before married and she fucked two guys both from bumble). She accepted I only asked she could flirt with them but not take time from us or our vacation. She agreed and being she is absolutely beautiful within a few min she had 50 likes she however did not like almost anybody but the 5 people she did all matched with her. There was a time we stopped what we were doing to go back to hotel and have sex. All day we had sex and I told her to sex somebody while I ate her out I later found out she was sexting 3 guys at the same time had crazy sex until she said it hurt and had to take a break.

The 3rd day I woke up to my wife masterbating and had the best sex of my life by far she was a sexual demon, she fucked me. Wife has always been afraid of threesomes. I told her if she fuck like that she could fuck two guys at the same time no problem which REALLY turn her on. I said all the right things she kept sexting through bumble and guys started to become very intense sending pictures some nudes, asking to video call, asking her out, asking for her number, etc. She rejected everything but did ask me if she could send a picture to one guy in lingerie and did but regretted this immediately that was her (our) limit. I asked how she felt and we decided to deleted her bumble profile and just focus on us the rest of the trip. For three days she was my hotwife.

We are back to reality have had sex and I purposefully have not brought hotwife up. Want to be clear I can do this with or without it. However it’s fun and makes everything spicy already thinking of conversation in a few weeks, I want to take it really slow going forward, if she even wants to.

My question is what can I do better I welcome constructive criticism, any thing I missed that you would do, or any recommendation for next steps?