I don't want to go into too much detail but if people aren't familiar with my posts I was last talking about my wife talking to some old guy and also having couples therapy scheduled.

My doctor also discontinued my Vyvanse. I didn't say anything about the fantasy just that I wanted to try something else.

The Vyvanse contributed to it a lot. I know most people here wouldn't want to admit to doing illegal drugs but I think any amphetamine contributes to it for some reason. I still can get into it but it's not as intense. Both my interest and my own orgasms. I would be just as into another woman, especially if I was the other guy.

Before therapy she met the old guy three times. Once it was for lunch, the other time she sucked his dick and another time she was penetrated but claimed he didn't cum. It kind of felt like he did which caused a problem because there was no point in lying. During sex it was kind of hot but not like the dirty talking before when I was on Vyvanse. The guy wanted to act like she's his gf or something which I didn't really care. He bought her things as much as he said his wife wouldn't notice. I still never talked to him and I was talking to a woman which she said she wanted to see and we ended up in an argument about that too. The argument about her and him didn't come until later but initially after sex she seemed guilty. She wouldn't talk about it but had some shitty video clips where she seemed to like it 🤷

I liked our therapist so far. We talked to her separately then together. Since the fantasy wasn't as much of an issue it was mostly about trust. We didn't talk about my abstinence idea but I still don't think my wife is being completely open with the therapist. And I've been careful to avoid giving her permission to do any of this through texts for legal reasons. I'm a little worried some of what I say could be turned over to a judge by my wife.

The therapist didn't approve of us seeing other people but was fine with the dirty talking, which was never really a thing for other women, just guys. So tbh I feel a little cheated, and I don't know if I can trust her not to keep seeing the guy. Again I really wouldn't care if it wasn't for our kids. I'm disappointed that the therapist didn't say more about the relationship with the medication and the fantasy but did talk about it being caused by insecurities. I like her because she's nice and isn't trying to encourage or validate things I think are unhealthy.

Does anyone have any opinions on my wife, the relationship between the fantasy and medication and experience with this fantasy and couples therapy?