MF couple here trying to explore a unique side to this. I guess it's more like swinging but my partner[F] wants to watch me[M] with couples and other women.

How can we find this experience as first timers? I've posted ads before on reddit and fetlife however we've had no luck. I understand this may be more difficult because I'm the bull/stag looking for couples. This mission is seemingly impossible for me.

I'm really just wondering if I'm not doing a good job at selling myself and standing out as an individual. I've never done this before and its alot of energy to write a thoughtful message and not just my "stats" for 98% to be ignored, and the other 2%either ghosted or flaked. I'm not complaining, just relating my experience as I know I'm probably needing some work on my approach or style of communication.

How did you get started and what makes your chosen candidate the bull for you? It's more than just being clean, respectful, patient, good looking and an above average tool otherwise I'd have alot more success and probably many others. I'm not asking for your "trade secrets", just some wisdom on how to navigate this kink and ways one can improve to be a better Bull/Stag to collaborate safe, fun and exciting experiences for everyone.