I thought I'll share the background details which you all have asked me. My lover and I were in a relationship back in the days and my parents came to know about it and they weren't supportive of this. And they arranged my marriage with my husband and I got married off under six months.

I told my husband about my past and turned out that my parents hadn't told him about this, and I too didn't got to see him otherwise to tell him this. I got to see him the first time during our engagement and second time was for our marriage. Basically, my parents screwed us and we realised how messy the situation was. Luckily, my husband understood the situation and I was honest to him about my love towards my lover. Through me, my husband met my lover outside. And my lover too was honest that he still loves me.

This is where things usually should have gone south, but this is exactly where things gor better for us. My husband met my lover several times after that and both men came to an agreement between eachother. Then they turned towards me, to make the final choice, either of them or both of them. I couldn't choose just one, because I had gotten attached to my husband as well by that point, and my choice was both of them, something they both too hoped for.

Both men respects and understands eachother's positions in my life and never tried to cross that, in fact they have only encouraged me to have a better relationship with the other one. Key thing is, they both are friends and transparent with eachother. My lover accept his position as a lover, with no everlasting social obligations towards me. So I got pregnant with my husband both the times, while my lover stayed bachelor, out of his choice. My husband would drop me off to my lover's house when he goes away for work and my lover would drop me back to my husband, when my husband is back home.

And we've had my lover as a father figure, along with my husband for our daughters. It was never forced upon them, but they themselves got along well with him, and when they have grown up and mature enough to understand, we ourselves told them how things are and why it is this way. Fortunately, they understood this as they always knew mom got two men and they got two "dads" which was normal for them growing up.