Sorry if this is another rant. If you read our last post you'd know we have been having difficulties finding a non-flake guy for wife to play with. Well, it happened again.

Meet a guy online, someone who checked most of the boxes and we seemed to really connect. He and the wife got to chatting and it didn't take long for her to decide she wanted to meet, he was funny, flirty and seemed really interested in her.

So last week we decided to grab a drink. Things went well, he seemed fun and they got to check each other out physically. The conversation was a bit vanilla in person, but as we got home he started texting her and telling her how sexy she was and all the things he was wanting to do to her. He just kept going on and on about how hot she was and how he was stroking to her pictures.

The rest of the week that continued. Until we decided to go to his city Saturday night. Grab a hotel, go dancing, have dinner, have a few drinks, then go back to the room.

We spent the rest of the week booking the room, making reservations and her getting waxed, manicured, pedicured and getting so new sexy clothing.

As the week progresses, dancing turns into just dinner and drinks. No problem. He is still fun chatting online, bit seems to not want to really talk about anything personal. Kind of seems upset when we ask him is last name.

The day comes, and we pack drinks, snacks, toys, protection... we get the room totally ready. As we are heading to dinner he texts and says he wants to skip dinner and just join us after for drinks.

When he finally does show up there is a little bit of a spark, some kissing on route to the bar. But once we get to the table the vibe seems to change.

First, he didn't want to sit beside wife She changed places to sit beside him. She spends the next half hour trying to flirt with him, touching his leg, his face, complementing his looks, trying to get something going.

Once again, he keeps the conversation pretty vanilla, talking about his town, the weather, sports. He makes no attempt to touch her in any way. Plus he never 9nce says how good she looks (and she looked amazing) or any other complement. He seems like a different person in real life compared to texts. Eventually i actually start to get a little bored and begin watching the game on TV.

After a while I get up to use the bathroom and when I get back to the table he's in the middle of telling her that he's not feeling it and just wants to leave.

I'm kind of pissed off so I just get up, pay the bill and the wife and I walk away.

He texts her apologizing, saying something about how much he loved texting her and offering to give us money for the room. We ignore him.

Wife is totally devastated. Thinking she is ugly, unattractive and not exciting. I spend the rest of the evening reminding her how sexy, beautiful and exciting she is and how much I love her. I do what I can, but she is upset

Look, I'm not saying he should have gone through with it if there wasn't anything there. But that's why we meet beforehand. That's why we share pictures. That's why we chat. Before booking the room we asked him multiple times. If he was sure and that we could reschedule if he wanted he just kept saying he was all in.

I'm not upset about the money (although that 300 bucks out the window for just the room) I'm upset about the time wasted, the opportunity lost and most importantly the humiliation my wife felt.

She is now pretty jaded by this. If we ever do this again (and that is a big "if") We will not be doing any of the planning, nor booking the room. She says the whole thing has made he lose faith in people in general.

Sorry for the long post. Just needed to get it off my chest and maybe give a cautionary tale