Just for some context, My wife and I have been in different countries for about 4 months now due to different work commitments. While we have been apart we have started talking about taking ENM relationships and specifically Hotwifing into actual practice. Previously we have talked about it many times and we always liked the idea of EMM relationships as we like the fact that they keep excitement and our relationship.

My wife has joined a few apps and has been chatting with a few guys and really enjoying all of the nice attention. One guy that she wanted to meet with who she has been chatting with the most unfortunately had to cancel 3 days before they were due to meet. He seemed like a really good person and also seems like he was going to be good fun in the bedroom as well, they both clicked great. We were both pretty upset when he had to cancel but that's life.

My wife still went out to the city and decided to have a date with one guy who seemed really nice and who she found extremely attractive. Unfortunately she didn't really get much of a vibe with him and decided to cut the date a bit short in the friendliest way possible. She then messaged another guy she had been chatting to for a while and see if they wanted to meet up for a drink. They met up for a drink and he seemed a bit more her type. Was young, attractive and quite intelligent, cheeky and flirty etc.

They ended up going back to his place and one thing led to another and they did end up sleeping together. Unfortunately though he was really bad in bed and was not a very giving partner in the bedroom. She even said to him a fair few times to at least rub her clit while they were playing and he still didn't. She wasn't really having a good time and eventually he just got soft and they stopped anyway.

She called me afterwards and was quite upset on the phone, I told her over and over that it's absolutely not her fault and that she should be proud she has made such a huge jump forward. She's pretty upset about all of this. And being the first time naturally there's a lot of expectations and a lot of feelings being had.

What can I do to make her feel better about all of this? She feels like she's let me down and she also is embarrassed and just sad about the whole thing.

I am completely fine with all of it, I love her more than ever after all of this just for at least giving it a go and trying to have some fun while we are apart.

I just want to make her feel better about all of this and it's hard while being away from her.

Any advice?