So the wife(33) and i(39) have finally ventured into the lifestyle after months of hot talk and even hotter sex after talking we decided it's time to put it into practice.

It has been sooo underwhelming we aren't sure what to do anymore. We have tried feeld and SLS like most people recommend and all these guys talk so much about how they will do this, that, and the other and how they match what we are looking for and love these ideas etc... then they don't live up to it at all.

We still get to have the hot reclaiming sex after and all, but a big part of the turn on for us was her venturing out and getting well taken care of... we have had three play dates and has cun exactly 0 times. Just trying to understand what we are doing wrong or is anyone else in a similar situation?